God does not give a person tests more than his strength, but why do people sometimes fail? Dialogue with Archpriest Andrei Tkachev God does not send

If the Lord God does not bless you for the birth of children, eradicate the sins presented in the list. Give yourself a chance to sort them out.

Christ does not want us to be sad.

And he gives children to those who deserve it, have suffered in moderation or worked out the karmic mistake of distant ancestors.

Let it be paganism, but we are talking about sinfulness.

Here is a small list for you to analyze, which will help you understand the possible reasons for God's disagreement with the birth of children.

one). Try to at least partially restore the genealogical tree-personal and husband.

In the event that the ancestors for the most part did not have children or decided on numerous abortions, beg forgiveness from God - and he will give you children.

2). How often do you swear?

It would seem a trifle, but “pot-bellied”.

Swearing and scolding, as well as fierce envy, are the most important sins that interfere with childbearing.

Eradicate them - and the Lord God will send you grace in the form of healthy children.

3). Sins associated with witchcraft and black magic.

Perhaps you once sinned with a love spell (of your own husband or beloved boyfriend).

For these sins, God not only opposes conception, but also terribly punishes with deep sorrow and illness.

A child cannot be born in a marriage that is held together by conspiracy fetters.

Go to church, repent of your sins - after a while you will nurse the child.

four). Sinful acts against other people's children.

Remember, maybe you offended an innocent child.

Tell Father about this, he confesses this sin.

5). If the Lord God does not give children, then it is time to take a step along the Orthodox road.

Since you are reading this article, it means you believe in Christ.

Involve yourself in Christian life, go to the Temple, pray, confess and repent.

When the suffering comes to an end, God will send you a son or daughter.

6). Donate what you can to orphanages. Give charity to the poor.

7). Stop abusing alcohol.

As soon as you cope with this temptation, God will give you strong children.

eight). Think about your own life. Perhaps you are not yet ready for the birth of a child.

Therefore, the Lord does not give you consent.

9). Forgive those who offended, betrayed or insulted you.

By forgiving others, you become closer to God, getting rid of sinful revenge and rancor.

ten). Do good things to people unselfishly and sincerely.

This universal advice, perhaps, will become the most basic.

When you stop complaining, getting angry, chasing wealth, unleashing pleasures, God will give you happy children, taking fate under reliable protection.

The material was prepared by me - Edwin Vostryakovsky.

Does it make sense to pray for recovery? Why do we ask for health if God sends us sickness?

In our prayers we ask for health, but the Lord knows why sicknesses are given to us. After all, nothing happens without His will...

We hear this kind of reasoning often. Yes, and ourselves, sometimes we think something like this: “Lord, for what sins have so many diseases been imposed on me?”

(The priest answers these and similar questions Sergiy Kruglov).

You want to say that diseases are sent by God for something useful? A more anti-Christian idea cannot be imagined! God is the Father, and we are the children. Is it possible to imagine that a person who has children will intentionally send suffering and illness to them? And this concerns a simple sinful person, and even more so God, who loves us to the point that he went to the cross for us.

That's not the point at all. The world is arranged very seriously, and life is a very serious thing, and it is given to people. The world is given to people.

Here a children's room was built, and the children settled in it, saying: “You will live here and host yourself!” And this is not done for fun - God does not do anything for fun - it is done in earnest. Man is responsible for the world in which he lives and for the life in which he lives. And when, as a result of the fall, death entered the world and received some of its rights in it, everything began to gradually collapse, anger, hatred, the most diverse sinful passions appeared, a person began to grow old, tired, yearn, get bored, die ...

The world has become quite a scary place. When a child is born, he cries, he probably feels that he has fallen into some place that is full of dangers. Life doesn't spare anyone! This is a wheel that rides and grinds a person ...

And the most wonderful, the most beautiful, the greatest thing is that God loves us so much, pities us, He cannot bear seeing the suffering of a person. He, of course, understands that everything happens by the will of man, through the fault of man. He perfectly understands that the child was scalded with boiling water, not listening to his mother, he climbed for the kettle himself. But when a child has burns on two-thirds of his body, his mother will not scold him for not obeying, she is ready to give her skin so that he stops suffering. She is ready to sacrifice herself so that he stops hurting. So right?

This is the logic of God. He Himself came into the world, He became a man. Naturally, the wheel of life crushed Him too, He fell on the cross, He died. But He is God. He couldn't die. He has risen. And this is a great breakthrough in the occupation of death.

I found a wonderful phrase in the bowels of Facebook: “Sir, we are surrounded! - Excellent! Now we can attack in any direction!” This is the logic of the resurrection! This is the logic of Christianity!

But God didn't just do it and rest. Not! He continues to participate because saving a person from death is highest view creativity. To transform a person, to transform. There is a synergy - we do it together with God. He puts His hands up again to keep us safe from evil.

God does not send us sickness, it is life that sends us sickness, a world permeated with evil. And God does so, offering his hands, that these diseases, firstly, can be healed, and secondly, they can bring some benefit.

The logic of death itself is completely incomprehensible. For her, disease is meant to be destroyed. And God makes it so that there is benefit from illness. A person who has experienced severe suffering, illness, is strengthened in spirit, he can then help those who are also suffering. That's what's happening!

Nonsensical question: "Why diseases?"

Illness is not “why”, but “because”. It comes from evil, from the fall, from this, from that. Man is meant to be healthy! God gave it - to live forever. A disease has no meaning, it must be healed. That is why the Church celebrates the memory of the Holy Great Martyr and Healer Panteleimon and many other doctors. Despite some obscurantist notions that sometimes exist in parishes that, they say, being treated is a sin, you only need to be treated with holy water, God created doctors and glorifies doctors in the face of saints precisely for their medical work. These are Cosmas and Diamian - holy doctors without silver, St. Luke Voyno-Yasenetsky and many others.

Can prayer heal?- many people ask. Prayer is not a spell, not a magic phrase that in itself heals, although ... The word is given great power. There are entire medical fields where the word is used as a medicine, as a method of treatment.

What is prayer? Prayer is a conversation between a person and God!

Prayer is a dialogue! You need to hear an answer to your appeal. Of course, if a person with the fullness of his faith cries out to God, he will not remain unheeded. The Lord never wants anything bad for us! He only wants the best for us. He never wants a person to suffer.

Today the Church remembers the great martyr and healer Panteleimon. His believers are often asked to intercede with God for healing. But is there any point in praying for recovery? Why do we ask for health if God sends us sickness? The priest Sergiy Kruglov answers.

In our prayers we ask for health, but the Lord knows why sicknesses are given to us. After all, nothing happens without His will...

Do you want to say that diseases are sent to man by God for something useful? A more anti-Christian idea cannot be imagined! God is the Father, and we are the children. Is it possible to imagine that a person who has children will intentionally send suffering and illness to them? And this concerns a simple sinful person, and even more so God, who loves us to the point that he went to the cross for us.
That's not the point at all. The world is arranged very seriously, and life is a very serious thing, and it is given to people. The world is given to people. Here a children's room was built, and the children settled in it, saying: “You will live here and host yourself!” And this is not done for fun - God does not do anything for fun - it is done in earnest. Man is responsible for the world in which he lives and for the life he lives. And when, as a result of the fall into sin, death entered life and received some of its rights in it, everything began to gradually collapse, anger, hatred, the most diverse sinful passions appeared, a person began to grow old, tired, yearn, get bored, die, that is, all that what we generally call death.

Death is everywhere in this world. It's mixed like nasty saccharin in tea - everywhere! She accompanies any person - a small, adult, old man. The world has become quite a scary place. When a child is born, he screams, he probably feels that he has fallen into some very scary, difficult place that is full of dangers. Life doesn't spare anyone! This is a wheel that rides and grinds a person, his bones ...

And the most wonderful, the most beautiful, the greatest thing is that God loves us so much, pities us, he cannot bear seeing the suffering of a person. He, of course, understands that everything happens by the will of man, through the fault of man. He perfectly understands that the child was scalded with boiling water, not listening to his mother, he climbed for the kettle himself. But when a child has two-thirds of the body burns, the mother will not scold him for not obeying, she is ready to give her skin so that he stops suffering. She is ready to sacrifice herself so that he stops hurting. So right?

This is the logic of God. He Himself came into the world, He became a man. Naturally, the wheel of life crushed Him too, He fell on the cross, He died. But He is God, He could not die, He was resurrected. And this is a great breakthrough in the occupation of death. I found a wonderful phrase in the bowels of Facebook: “Sir, we are surrounded! - Excellent! Now we can attack in any direction!” This is the logic of the resurrection! This is the logic of Christianity! There was a breakthrough, a breakthrough to conquer death. Breakthrough defeat evil.

But God didn't just do it and rest. Not! He continues to participate because saving a person from death is the highest kind of creativity. To transform a person, to transform. There is a synergy - we do it together with God. And God continues to participate in all this, He offers His hands, He constantly saves us. Maybe we sometimes do not understand this, do not see it, and when we see it, we forget. And He goes to the cross again and again, again and again puts His hands up, protecting us from all evil.

God does not send us sickness, it is life that sends us sickness, a world permeated with evil. And God does so, offering his hands, that these diseases, firstly, can be healed, and secondly, they can bring some benefit.

“But He knows why illnesses…

A meaningless expression - "why illness." Illness BECAUSE. He knows why the disease. It comes from evil, from the fall, from this and that. Like any evil, it is meaningless. Only what the Lord has created makes sense. And evil, sickness, sin have no meaning. What is sin? They took a good thing and ruined it. After all, a good thing grows under any sin: they spoiled the wine - drunkenness turned out; love between a man and a woman turned into fornication.

Man is meant to be healthy. God gave it - to live forever. A disease has no meaning, it must be healed. That is why the Church celebrates the memory of the Holy Great Martyr Panteleimon, a healer, and very many other doctors. Despite some obscurantist notions that sometimes exist in parishes that, they say, being treated is a sin, you only need to be treated with holy water, God created doctors and glorifies doctors in the face of saints precisely for their medical work. These are Cosmas and Damian - holy unmercenary doctors, St. Luke Voyno-Yasenetsky and many others.

Can prayer heal?

Also a great expression! How can prayer itself heal? Although many believe that prayer is such a spell, a magic phrase that heals in itself. This is not true.
The word is given great power. There are entire medical fields where the word is used as a medicine, as a method of treatment. Prayer is a conversation between man and God. This is not just a conversation, chatter ... This is an appeal, a request, gratitude, this is when all the strength is gathered, as from the last strength a young man shouts about love to a girl, or she shouts to him - he is taken to the army, he rides a train, leans out the window, and the girl shouts to him - this is a prayer, because everything is collected there human! Or gratitude. Or a request - help, save!

Prayer is a dialogue. You need to hear the answer to your title. Of course, if a person with the fullness of his faith, with the fullness of his being, screams like this, calls out, of course, he will not go unheeded. In this sense, prayer is saving.

- But someone is healed, someone is not. Doesn't he pray so fervently?

It's not about that. This is such a superficial sign for us: if you are so smart, then why are you so poor.

We see one, two, three, sometimes fifteen aspects of a person's life. An intelligent person sees sixteen sides. And there are one thousand one hundred and sixteen of them! Man is a huge system that is connected with everything in the world. Therefore, two people suffering from the same disease and having approximately the same level of churchness have absolutely different lives, because in all other respects they are completely different. One is healed, the other is not, not because one prays fervently and the other does not, but there are many other reasons, sometimes very serious reasons.\

For example, one of the reasons is whether a person wants to get well or not? A lot of diseases, if you dig a person deeper and pull everything out of him by the ear, and into the sun, come from the fact that a person wants to get sick and does not want healing. For him, illness is a way to hide from the world. Often this happens - some difficult, unbearable circumstances have fallen on a person - bang! he collapsed and got sick! The man wanted to relieve himself of responsibility: “That's it! I got sick!" He is given tea with raspberries and medicines. A simple example is when a person hides in illness from overexertion. Many mental illness- a way to hide from life.

Sometimes it happens that a person does not want to be healed. To be healthy, you need to lead a certain lifestyle, and a person has a more important goal than being healthy. For example, an alcoholic understands that he is destroying himself, but says: “Give me some pill so that I can be healthy, but I won’t stop drinking!”

And yet the weakness of prayer can mean that a person understands prayer as a kind of spell, a magic pill. Not like talking to God. He does not need God himself, but he needs specific momentary health. There are many examples when people travel to holy places, and immediately go to different grandmothers, healers, psychics, read any prayers and spells mixed up, because they believe that correctly pronounced words in the correct order will produce something by themselves. And how many pseudo-scientific treatises on the benefits of prayer for this, for that, for piglets, for geese ...

- Maybe it’s still scary to pray because at the end you need to add: Let it not be the way I want, but like You ...

Yes. But in reality it is not so scary, because the Lord does not wish us anything bad. Never! He only wants the best for us. He never wants a person to suffer.
But another thing, we are behaving like a child! The Lord says: “For you to be healthy, you need to be a little patient and take medicine.” “No,” we whine, “I’d rather die, but I won’t give an injection!”
"Thy will be done!" The will of God is always good.

There may be another point here. It is hard for us to say “Thy will be done!”, because we know that something will be required of us. “Yes, it is My will that you be well. Come on, follow the regime, diet, stop bad habits"Ahh, I don't want that! I want to climb the tree and not scratch anything! I want…"

- Miracle!

Yes. As in the old joke: “Well, okay! I will drink, but I will not quit smoking!”

The words "Thy will be done!" very difficult to pronounce. They are easy to pronounce for those who pray superficially. And a person who understands what he is saying is difficult for him. Whoever has more faith always finds it more difficult.

- And the mother’s prayer will get it from the bottom of the sea, this ...

This is a manifestation of love. Love is the basis of life, the world rests on it. Love always saves. A mother's prayer is a manifestation of love.

The mother in this case follows in the footsteps of Christ. Christ is ready to go to the cross, to death, He gives everything - the body, His blood, everything! We are not only enjoying the fruits of what He has done, we are using Him ourselves. We eat Him at every liturgy. He gave us everything!

So the mother gives herself. Only an earthly woman has limited opportunities, God has more opportunities. But she repeats in her impulse, in love, in prayer the same feat, she follows in the footsteps of Christ.

Interviewed by Tamara Amelina

In our prayers we ask for health, but the Lord knows why sicknesses are given to us. After all, nothing happens without His will...

But God didn't just do it and rest. Not! He continues to participate because saving a person from death is the highest kind of creativity. To transform a person, to transform. There is a synergy - we do it together with God. And God continues to participate in all this, He puts His hands, He constantly saves us. Maybe we sometimes do not understand this, do not see it, and when we see it, we forget. And He goes to the cross again and again, again and again puts His hands up, protecting us from all evil.

“But He knows why illnesses…

Can prayer heal?

Also a great expression! How can prayer itself heal? Although many believe that prayer is such a spell, a magic phrase that heals in itself. This is not true.
The word is given great power. There are entire medical fields where the word is used as a medicine, as a method of treatment. Prayer is a conversation between man and God. This is not just a conversation, chatter ... This is an appeal, a request, gratitude, this is when all the strength is gathered, as from the last strength a young man shouts about love to a girl, or she shouts to him - he is taken to the army, he rides a train, leans out the window, and the girl shouts to him, - this is a prayer, because the whole human being is gathered there! Or gratitude. Or a request - help, save!

- But someone is healed, someone is not. Doesn't he pray so fervently?

It's not about that. This is such a superficial sign for us: if you are so smart, then why are you so poor.

We see one, two, three, sometimes fifteen aspects of a person's life. An intelligent person sees sixteen sides. And there are one thousand one hundred and sixteen of them! Man is a huge system that is connected with everything in the world. Therefore, two people suffering from the same disease and having approximately the same level of churchness have completely different lives, because in everything else they are completely different. One is healed, the other is not, not because one prays fervently and the other does not, but there are many other reasons, sometimes very serious reasons.\

- Maybe it’s still scary to pray because at the end you need to add: Let it not be the way I want, but like You ...

There may be another point here. It is hard for us to say “Thy will be done!”, because we know that something will be required of us. “Yes, it is My will that you be well. Come on, follow the regime, diet, give up bad habits "" Ahh, I don't want this! I want to climb the tree and not scratch anything! I want…"

- Miracle!

Yes. As in the old joke: “Well, okay! I will drink, but I will not quit smoking!”

- And the mother’s prayer will get it from the bottom of the sea, this ...

This is a manifestation of love. Love is the basis of life, the world rests on it. Love always saves. A mother's prayer is a manifestation of love.

Interviewed by Tamara Amelina

Families that ask the Lord for a child and cannot conceive for a long time are gradually filled with disappointment and bitterness, the question “Why does the Lord not give children to a woman?” How to accept and understand the providence of God? Is it possible to find strength after constant failures to trust Him further? Is there a way out of this situation?

Possible reasons

Why does the Lord not give a child to a woman? No one really knows the answer, and there is no single right answer to this complex, dreary question. Everything is in the hands of the Lord and His Will is not ours, therefore all answers are hidden from Him, but not always a person should furiously seek them.

What if God does not give children?

What are the possible causes of infertility in women? Without taking into account medical indications, you can make a small list:

As a test of faith and patience, some families could not come to terms with the absence of children for a long time, but exactly when their souls were filled with complete humility before the Lord and acceptance of His will, He sent them a baby.
For churching - some women who are given infertility are looking for solutions in the church, thereby saving their own and their husband's soul. There is a lot of evidence of how people who became churched and became true Orthodox soon became parents.
The consequence of an abortion - murder (namely, this is what abortion is) is strictly punished by the Lord and often women who have committed infertility orders. Children must be accepted when the Lord sends them, and not when a person has decided;
The consequence of the sinful youth of parents - promiscuity, adultery, some types of contraception have a detrimental effect on the reproductive abilities of a woman. Such people should first of all repent before the Lord and only then pray to Him for mercy and offspring.

Each case is individual, in any case, a woman (and her husband, of course) should think about why the Lord does not send them offspring.

Perhaps it is necessary to repent of something, maybe - to confess a secret sin, or perhaps it is necessary to do your part - to be examined by a doctor and solve problems, if any.

The ways of the Lord are inscrutable and sometimes He does not give native children so that the family would serve someone's abandoned child and adopt him. And the Lord does not allow someone to have children at all because of selfishness and selfishness.

Everyone must find their own answer.

On the birth and upbringing of children:

Church and modern ways of dealing with infertility

Modern technologies allow even women who could not get pregnant for many years to finally become a mother. What does the Church say about the use of these methods?

To begin with, it should be clarified that all medicines that help restore the reproductive function of the body are allowed and welcomed by the Church, as safe way improve health and fulfill the human part. Therefore, the following methods are allowed:

medical examinations;
the use of hormonal drugs;
tracking menstrual cycles;
the use of appropriate medications.

But it's forbidden Bishops' Council 2000:

surrogacy.

The opinion of the church about IVF

Why is IVF banned? Because this is a gross intrusion into the sacrament of conception and the incidental murder of children. The decision of the Council forbade the use of all varieties of this procedure by Orthodox believers.

Eco is performed as follows: superovulation is stimulated, which makes it possible to obtain a large number of eggs, the best of them are selected and fertilized with the husband's seed. The fertilized cells are then placed in a special incubator where they mature to be partially transplanted into the uterus and partially frozen.

Important! There is no guarantee that a miscarriage will not occur, but the procedure always destroys or kills the embryos. Therefore, the Church strictly forbids these procedures.

Priests Answers

Many priests agree in one opinion - that it is necessary to accept God's providence with humility.

For example, Elder Paisius Svyatogorets said that God sometimes delays on purpose in order to further fulfill His plan to save people. This can be seen in many stories in the Bible - Abraham and Sarah, Joachim and Elizabeth, St. Anna, Elizabeth and Zechariah. The birth of children depends primarily on God, but also on man. And it is necessary to do everything possible for God to give a child, but if He hesitates, there is a reason for this and we must accept it. Peter and Fevronia, as well as making pilgrimages to holy places. He says that the long absence of children is a test of their feelings.

Priest Valery Dukhanin advises not to strive to comprehend all the secrets of Divine care for people. Children are God's gift, which is given according to His will and Providence. They must be accepted with humility. He gives some examples that show that sometimes God closes a woman's womb for the good of spouses and one must be able to accept this good.

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