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larissa

* When swallows fly low, wait for the wind and rain.
* If a cat, sitting on the ground, licks its tail and hides its head, then this is a sure sign - to be raining.
* The pallor of the moon signifies rain; clean and bright - a bucket, and reddish - wind and storm.
* Clouds red before sunset portend a storm, the next day - clear weather.
* Clouds before sunrise, if red and black, it will rain.
* When the fog descends from the sky, falls on the ground, it means good weather, and if in the evening the fog rises from the ground or from the water, in the morning - a hot day.
* If during a conversation someone sneezed, the one who spoke at that time told the truth.
* Taking a bucket, a bag, a basket, a jar, a plate from someone, do not return it empty. You put something - you will have more.
* I didn’t finish the bread and took another piece unnoticed by myself - one of the relatives in the distance is hungry.
* If two people yawn at the same time, they drink wine together.

larissa

* Do not allow to step over your outstretched legs - you will not grow. If you didn’t follow, and this happened, ask to step back.
* Afraid of being tickled means jealous.
* If the first thing on the market is sold well, "anoint" the rest of the goods with the money received - you will sell just as profitably.
* If the thing you want to sell accidentally fell out of your hands on the market, you will definitely sell it.
* Do not raise a pin - there will be a quarrel, and if you give it - take a penny in exchange.
* You should not give a knife - to a quarrel; the giver must take money in exchange, even a penny.
* Play with a knife - there will be a quarrel.
* Pass your handkerchief to someone - pass your tears.
* Leaving a knife on the table overnight is a big nuisance.
* When the house is dirty, cluttered, and all things are not in their places - not to well-being. The house is clean, light - to health, good luck.
* Wash the apartment late at night - wash your well-being.
* To lose a glove - unfortunately.

larissa

* Accidentally spilled tea - to surprise, more often to pleasant.
* Going to visit for the first time new house, apartment - bring bread, salt and an icon - to well-being in that house.
* In order not to jinx your luck, if you talk about it to someone - knock three times on something wooden and spit three times over your left shoulder.
* Before you leave home, do not sew up anything - otherwise there will be no luck.
* Going on a long journey, do not bathe that day, not my hair
* so that there is no trouble.
* If you left the house and something obstructs your path - a car, water, stop and think what you did wrong - you forgot to turn off the gas, remove the kettle from the stove, did not close the door ...
* If you often forget or lose the keys to your house, car - expect theft.
* If the keys fell from the person who was about to leave the house - to failure.
* Titmouse knocks on the window - there will be news.
* To see a spider in the morning - to sadness; in the afternoon - to love; in the evening - to hope; at night - to worries.

larissa

I know quite a lot of wedding signs, but I'm not sure about all of them. Otherwise, judge for yourself.
The groom should not see the bride in a wedding dress before painting or wedding.
If dropped wedding ring, then a thread must be passed through it, and then the one who dropped the ring must burn this thread, while saying "burn the fire all my troubles and sorrows."
Young people after leaving the registry office or church should be sprinkled with rain from:
- rice, millet, buckwheat, so that there are many children in the family as in a spikelet of grains;
- from sweets or dragees so that life is sweet;
- from small coins, so that there is prosperity in the family;
- from flower petals or confetti, so that the life of the young is beautiful and romantic.
In order for the young people not to quarrel, they must break the plate and step over the fragments.
After the painting or wedding, whoever crosses the threshold of the registry office or church first will be the owner in the house.
Through the threshold of the house, the young husband must carry his wife in his arms, then she will always be "carried in her arms" in this house.
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OKSANA

If a close relative dies on the birthdays of children, grandchildren, what does this mean? Heard what it means to love them a lot, is that true? Or are there other meanings?

Victoria

Oksana, death on her birthday loved one, simply launches the Karmic program. For example, one of the children has a birthday on 7.12. 1979, and someone close to him dies on December 7, 2004, program 712 is launched, i.e. passing the baton, it may also sound like the Karma of the clan, which means the deceased did not cope with this program and specifically indicated who will have to work hardest on this ... The same program can be launched in another way, not necessarily by death on the day of birth, it all depends from the severity of detentions ... For the living, it is not very pleasant to receive the death of someone who loved them as a birthday present ... This is a testament to life and a very specific one at that ...

Olga

My mother died on 09/19/06, and my birthday is 09/20. My husband's father died on his birthday. And my dad died on March 8. What does this mean? All the sins of the deceased passed to us?

N

The grandmother-sorcerer, (healer, in general - a person with superpowers) makes a CHARM, which for the rest of a person's life should protect from misfortunes, the deeds of sorcerers, etc. Is it possible to believe in a miraculous property this amulet? (this amulet is very expensive, but my grandmother didn’t tell the price to my friend, she said that - when you can pay so much financially for this work so that you don’t have to pay with something else, then you’ll come ...) But what about the property of things in the accumulation of negative energy...?

Irina

An amulet (amulet) can be any item made by a person himself or bought, but it needs to be charged with a holy word. By the way, all minerals are amulets (due to their crystal lattice)

Irina

lovers of the horoscope-amulets minerals. ARIES-amethyst and all red stones, TAURUS-agate and all white transparent, Gemini-beryl and all variegated, Cancer-chalcedony and all white opaque, Leo-onyx, carnelian, Virgo-jasper, crystal, aventurine , Scorpio-blood, amber, coral, Sagittarius-turquoise, zircon, malachite, Capricorn-onyx, chrysoprase, jet. Aquarius-turquoise, obsidian, sapphire, Pisces-Alexandrite, aquamarine, coral, pearl, Libra-tourmaline, opal and all ocellar

Irina

I must add that the amulets restore their strength after 33 days, 3 months, 7.5 weeks.

N

Thank you, Irina!(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)(L)(L):-)

And only a person with the Gift can charge the Amulet with the Holy Word?

Irina

It is enough to read Our Father 3 times and your amulet is ready, but when the amulet is made to recover from severe mental illness, then go to a specialist! And he will not take a large amount, but will only ask for material for making the amulet. you choose the amount yourself. I think everyone understands why you need to pay

Irina

Speaking of superstitions and other forms of life (of beings in this case) In the month of November, all women who want to become a mother, but different reasons they can’t - you can turn to UTILYANA - this is the patroness of the feminine. After the appeal, you need to leave her payment. (Either write a poem for her, or light a fire and cook something on it, leaving her some food)

Irina

In continuation of the conversation about other forms of life in DECEMBER, in order to enlist the support of higher powers and ward off trouble from yourself or from your loved ones, you can turn to SVALDER.

Irina

Soon Christmas is an occasion to enlist the support of all beings. To do this, you need to bake a sweet cake + whip the cream and put it on the table + put salt on the table + put napkins + light a candle and turn to higher powers for protection and support in the coming year with these words: my payment to you beings and entities and higher power on the table!

Olga

You can’t give watches, they count your time (LIFE) .. I was convinced many times in fact .. Relatives gave my son a watch (they stopped after six months) well ... it's better to buy a watch for yourself ...

N

Irina, and after this ritual, you need to leave and leave the sweets on the table for the night? (on the night before Christmas?) Or sit down at the table and drink tea and cake? (where to put the pie and cream).

Olga

My grandmother (on my mother’s side) died at the age of 88 just on my daughter’s birthday (she was one year old) Grandma predicted the exact date of her death in 2 days .. She was very wise and believing .. Now I think that my daughter received something from my grandmother that has not yet fully manifested itself .. My daughter's moles are located like constellations in the starry sky ...

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Hello. My husband recently died. Forty days will be July 25th. The son asks if it is possible to bury the father's ashes one day before the son's birthday, that is, the son's birthday is July 9, and bury on July 8, or whether it is possible to bury the ashes on the 40th day after the death of her husband or not. Thank you. Elena.

Elena

Hello, Elena. You can bury the urn with ashes any day. God bless you.

Priest Sergei Osipov

Is it possible to celebrate a birthday if my brother died 3 days before my birthday

Tatiana

Hello, Tatyana. Refrain from celebrating. The birthday will be many more times, and the soul of the deceased brother now needs you to pray and fast for her.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Good evening, on my birthday I went to the service, and it so happened that the priest came out at someone's request for confession. I also had a desire to go to confession (although I didn’t prepare), I confessed and took communion without reading the canons. I reassured myself that I would come after the service and read everything, but the children came to congratulate me, the time passed quickly, and I never read the canons, only at the evening prayer I thanked God for giving me the opportunity to take communion on my birthday, and asked for forgiveness. Do I need to repent of this at my next confession? And it worries me that I often take offense at my relatives. Everything was wrong for me, they said it wrong, they answered it wrong. What can you read to find mutual understanding with your relatives and be in harmony with yourself? Relatives believe in God, but do not adhere to the commandments of God (this is putting it mildly). It became difficult for me to communicate with them, and I can no longer go with them for no reason. In general, I am very demanding both to myself and to others. Recent times I have moved away from everyone, and I feel good alone. This is fine?

Natalia

Read thanksgiving prayers after Communion and mention in confession that you did not read the rule for Communion. As for relationships with relatives, it is more difficult. One thing is clear - you need to maintain complacency and show love towards your loved ones. Read Abba Dorotheus, he has a lot about relationships with loved ones, there was even an article in Alpha and Omega that was called something like “Conflictology of Abba Dorotheus”.

Deacon Ilya Kokin

Good afternoon! Our whole family goes to church. But the husband's (girl's) work colleagues persuade him to celebrate his birthday with them by going to a cafe. He is not going to drink, but he cannot understand my objections either, he does not want to be a "black sheep", as he told me. How should I behave with him if he still goes?

Hello Julia. Go with him. You are “one flesh”, which means all together, or not at all.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

On what day after the grandmother's funeral can you go to a friend's wedding?

Irina Koval

Irina, usually we pray for the deceased only for the first 40 days, and, of course, it is undesirable to attend weddings, birthdays and other entertainments on these days. But after 40 days, you can safely go to a friend's wedding.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon, please advise which icon can be presented for a birthday to a woman (relative)? She is 45 years old and has two children.

Elena

Elena, any icon will be a good gift a person who can use it for its intended purpose, that is, pray before it. For example, you can give an icon Mother of God, since, according to tradition, women most often resort to Her in their prayers.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello, I have a question. The situation is this: our grandmother died in our family, but she is not my direct grandmother, she is my grandfather's sister. 40 days will be July 3, and June 21 will be my daughter's birthday, 2 years old, is it possible to celebrate? I'm really looking forward to the answer, because I'm confused. Thanks in advance.

Sofia

Sofya, for the first 40 days, you need to purely pray for the dead, because. they can no longer pray for themselves. Celebrating a birthday right now is not entirely appropriate. I advise you to celebrate your daughter's birthday after 40 days, for example, July 4 (this will only happen this year, then you can celebrate as usual). And your soul will be at peace.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon! I have such a situation. I baptized my third child with my friend. Later she married her brother (he baptized their second child). My husband and I want to get married. I wanted to know if the "godfathers" are relatives according to church concepts. Can I get married with the brother of my "kuma"? We are expecting a child, and we wanted to get married before the birth of our daughter, but the circumstances are such that we, most likely, will not succeed before the birth. I have already got used to the idea that God does not give. Could it be these circumstances that hinder us? Really looking forward to the answer. Thank you.

Anastasia

Hello Anastasia! Spiritual kinship, equated to physical, arises between the godfather and the baptized. Marriage between them is not possible. In your case, there are no obstacles. Maybe you are too demanding for the ceremony? If you wish, you can modestly get married without delay. After the birth of the child "circumstances" will be even more. Help God.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Is it possible to attend the wake (40 days) of my father if this day coincides with my birthday?

Lara

Lara, the commemoration of the deceased, especially for 40 days, is more important than a birthday. On the 40th day, the posthumous fate of the deceased is determined, and this is your own father. You must definitely go to the temple on this day and pray for the repose of your father - this is the most important thing. You also need to go to the funeral. A birthday can also be moved to another day, for example, to the next.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello, father, tell me, please, the birthday coincided with Radonitsa, is it possible to celebrate it on this day?

Alexei

Alexey, it is possible to combine these two events. Radonitsa is religious holiday when the Church pray for all dead Orthodox Christians. Birthday is your personal holiday. Therefore, you first need to pray in the church on this day - for yourself and for the dead, and then you can celebrate your birthday.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

If a grandmother died on the same day as her granddaughter's birthday...

larisa

Larisa, each of us is born and dies when the Lord blesses. If some dates coincide, there is nothing special about it.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! My husband was baptized (and all his relatives) in the Old Believer Orthodox Church, I'm in an ordinary Orthodox church. We are not married, we have a daughter, we want to baptize her on her first birthday in an ordinary Orthodox church. Can one of the godparents be from the Old Believers? Thank you.

Anna

Anna, godfather should be Orthodox Christian and not an old-timer. receivers ( God-parents) are given to the baby in order to pray for him and teach him Orthodox faith. Therefore, it is necessary to choose godparents for your child very carefully, giving preference to a church-going person who regularly visits the temple and is familiar with the basics of Orthodoxy. Then it will really be useful to the child. The Old Believer will not be able to do all this.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon! I want to make a birthday present to a close friend - an icon. He has a new house, where there are no icons yet. Which one is better in this case? Thank you!

Tatiana

Tatyana, giving icons is good Orthodox tradition. You can give any icon as a gift - it's what you like best.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Please tell me, my daughter's birthday falls on a strict fast, on the last, Holy Week of Lent. All our surroundings, friends do not fast (my husband and I, too). But I'm still wondering what to do? Tag after post?

Oksana

Oksana. Holy Week is a time of strict fasting and prayer, a special time. All Orthodox Christians pray, fast and prepare for Easter. Celebrations will be completely inappropriate. It is necessary to postpone the birthday, and celebrate it after Easter.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello, I have 2 questions for you. 1) if a person was baptized in a Catholic church, is it possible to be baptized in an Orthodox one? 2) I got into an accident, the car is beyond repair, but, thank God, I'm alive, what should I do on this day? Celebrate like a second birthday, or is it better to fast? Thanks in advance for the replies.

Valery

Valery, baptized in catholic church to convert to Orthodoxy, you need to supplement baptism. To do this, you need to contact the priest in the temple and explain the situation. It is impossible to be baptized in the usual rite, this is a sin. We believe "In one baptism" (see Creed). On the day of your miraculous salvation book at church thanksgiving service God.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good afternoon! I wanted to know how to do the right thing. My daughter's birthday falls on Krasnaya Gorka or Seeing Off. Can we celebrate on this day? After all, on this day everyone goes to the cemetery, commemorate the dead.

Anna

Anna, they go to the cemetery not to Krasnaya Gorka, but to Radonitsa (general Easter commemoration of the dead, this year Radonitsa is April 29). “Seeing off” - there is no such day in the church at all, what does “seeing off” mean, who and where do we “see off”? On Krasnaya Gorka, on April 27, you can celebrate your birthday, but it is advisable to go to church first in the morning and pray, and only then celebrate.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello! My name is Dmitry. I was born on December 27, 1983, I was baptized on June 27, 1992. I remember exactly that Batiushka baptized under the name Demetrius. I have recently started to become a church member, but I cannot decide on a patron saint. I pray to Dimitry of Rostov, but according to the date of birth, the closest saint, Rev. Demetrius (January 31), I can’t find any of his icons, life, or prayers to him. May I continue to read Dimitri Rostovsky? Thank you.

Dmitry

Dmitry, if St. Demetrius of Rostov is closer to you, then you can continue to consider him your heavenly patron.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

The great-grandmother died, the child has a birthday, 2 years old, how long after the funeral can you celebrate a birthday?

In everyday life, when we talk to someone we know, and he says: “You know, so-and-so died,” the usual reaction to this is a question: how died? Very important, how a person dies. Death is important for a person's sense of self. It is not only negative.

If we look at life philosophically, we know that there is no life without death, the concept of life can only be evaluated from the standpoint of death.

I once had to communicate with artists and sculptors, and I asked them: “You depict various aspects of a person’s life, you can depict love, friendship, beauty, but how would you depict death?” And no one gave a clear answer right away.

One sculptor who immortalized the siege of Leningrad promised to think about it. And shortly before his death, he answered me this way: "I would depict death in the image of Christ." I asked: "Is Christ crucified?" “No, the ascension of Christ.”

One German sculptor depicted a flying angel, the shadow of whose wings was death. When a person fell into this shadow, he fell into the power of death. Another sculptor depicted death in the form of two boys: one boy sits on a stone with his head on his knees, he is all directed downwards.

The second boy has a flute in his hands, his head is thrown back, he is all directed after the motive. And the explanation of this sculpture was as follows: it is impossible to depict death without accompanying life, and life without death.

Death is a natural process. Many writers tried to portray life as immortal, but it was a terrible, terrible immortality. What is endless life - endless repetition of earthly experience, stoppage of development or endless aging? It is difficult even to imagine the painful state of a person who is immortal.

Death is a reward, a respite, it is abnormal only when it comes suddenly, when a person is still on the rise, full of strength.

And old people want to die. Some old women ask: "Here, it's healed, it's time to die." And the patterns of death that we read about in the literature, when death befell the peasants, were of a normative nature.

When a villager felt that he could no longer work as before, that he was becoming a burden on the family, he went to the bathhouse, put on clean clothes, lay down under the icon, said goodbye to neighbors and relatives, and died peacefully. His death came without the pronounced suffering that occurs when a person struggles with death.

The peasants knew that life is not a dandelion flower that has grown, blossomed and scattered under the wind. Life has a deep meaning.

This example of the death of peasants dying, giving themselves permission to die, is not a feature of those people, we can find similar examples today. Once a cancer patient came to us. A former military man, he behaved well and joked: "I went through three wars, pulled death by the mustache, and now it's time for her to pull me."

Of course, we supported him, but suddenly one day he could not get out of bed and took it quite unambiguously: “That's it, I'm dying, I can't get up anymore.” We told him: "Don't worry, it's a metastasis, people with spinal metastases live a long time, we'll take care of you, you'll get used to it." “No, no, this is death, I know.”

And, imagine, in a few days he dies, having no physiological prerequisites for this. He dies because he chose to die. This means that this good will for death or some kind of projection of death takes place in reality.

It is necessary to give life a natural demise, because death is programmed at the moment of conception of a person. A kind of experience of death is acquired by a person in childbirth, at the moment of birth. When you deal with this problem, you can see how intelligently life is built. As a person is born, so he dies, easily born - easy to die, hard to be born - hard to die.

And the day of death of a person is also not accidental, like the day of birth. Statisticians are the first to raise this issue by discovering the frequent coincidence of people's date of death and date of birth. Or, when we remember some significant anniversaries of the death of our relatives, it suddenly turns out that the grandmother died - a granddaughter was born. This transmission to generations and the non-randomness of the day of death and birthday is striking.

Clinical death or another life?

Not a single sage has yet understood what death is, what happens at the time of death. Such a stage as clinical death is left practically unattended. A person falls into a coma, his breathing stops, his heart stops, but unexpectedly for himself and for others, he comes back to life and tells amazing stories.

Natalya Petrovna Bekhtereva recently died. At one time we often argued, I told cases clinical death, which were in my practice, and she said that this is all nonsense, that changes are just taking place in the brain, and so on. And once I gave her an example, which she then began to use and tell herself.

I worked for 10 years at the Oncological Institute as a psychotherapist, and one day I was called to a young woman. During the operation, her heart stopped, they could not start it for a long time, and when she woke up, I was asked to see if her psyche had changed due to the long oxygen starvation of the brain.

I came to the intensive care unit, she was just coming to her senses. I asked, "Can you talk to me?" “Yes, but I would like to apologize to you for causing you so much trouble.” - "What's the trouble?" – “Well, how about it. My heart stopped, I experienced such stress, and I saw that for doctors it was also a lot of stress.”

I wondered: “How could you see this if you were in a state of deep drugged sleep, and then your heart stopped?” “Doctor, I could tell you a lot more if you promised not to send me to a psychiatric hospital.”

And she said the following: when she fell into a drug-induced sleep, she suddenly felt that it was as if a soft blow to her feet made something inside her turn, like a screw is turned out. She had the feeling that the soul turned outward and went out into some kind of foggy space.

Looking closer, she saw a group of doctors bending over the body. She thought: what a familiar face this woman has! And then she suddenly remembered that it was herself. Suddenly a voice was heard: "Immediately stop the operation, the heart has stopped, you need to start it."

She thought she had died, and remembered with horror that she had not said goodbye to either her mother or her five-year-old daughter. Anxiety for them literally pushed her in the back, she flew out of the operating room and in an instant found herself in her apartment.

She saw a rather peaceful scene - the girl was playing with dolls, her grandmother, her mother, was sewing something. There was a knock at the door, and a neighbor, Lidia Stepanovna, came in. In her hands was a small polka-dot dress. “Mashenka,” the neighbor said, “you tried all the time to be like your mother, so I sewed for you the same dress as your mother.”

The girl happily rushed to her neighbor, touched the tablecloth on the way, an old cup fell, and a teaspoon fell under the carpet. Noise, the girl is crying, the grandmother exclaims: “Masha, how awkward you are,” Lidia Stepanovna says that the dishes are beating fortunately - a common situation.

And the girl's mother, forgetting about herself, went up to her daughter, stroked her head and said: "Masha, this is not the worst grief in life." Mashenka looked at her mother, but, not seeing her, turned away. And suddenly this woman realized that when she touched the girl's head, she did not feel this touch. Then she rushed to the mirror and did not see herself in the mirror.

In horror, she remembered that she had to be in the hospital, that her heart had stopped. She rushed out of the house and found herself in the operating room. And then she heard a voice: “The heart started, we are doing an operation, but rather, because there may be a second cardiac arrest.”

After listening to this woman, I said: “Don’t you want me to come to your house and tell your family that everything is in order, they can see you?” She happily agreed.

I went to the address given to me, my grandmother opened the door, I told how the operation went, and then asked: “Tell me, did your neighbor Lidia Stepanovna come to you at half past eleven?” - “She came, but do you know her?” “Did she bring a polka-dot dress?” “What are you, a wizard, a doctor?”

I keep asking, and everything came together to the details, except for one thing - the spoon was not found. Then I say: “Did you look under the carpet?” They pick up the carpet and there is a spoon.

This story had a great effect on Bekhtereva. And then she herself had a similar experience. In one day, she lost both her stepson and her husband, both committed suicide. For her, it was a terrible stress. And then one day, entering the room, she saw her husband, and he turned to her with some words.

She, an excellent psychiatrist, decided that these were hallucinations, returned to another room and asked her relative to see what was in that room. She came up, looked in and recoiled: “Yes, your husband is there!” Then she did what her husband asked, making sure that such cases were not fiction.

She told me: "No one knows the brain better than me (Bekhtereva was the director of the Institute of the Human Brain in St. Petersburg). And I have a feeling that I am standing in front of some kind of huge wall, behind which I hear voices, and I know that there is a wonderful and huge world, but I cannot convey to others what I see and hear. Because in order for it to be scientifically sound, everyone has to repeat my experience.”

Once I was sitting next to a dying patient. I put the music box on, which played a touching tune, then asked, "Turn it off, is it bothering you?" “No, let him play.” Suddenly her breathing stopped, the relatives rushed: "Do something, she is not breathing."

I rashly gave her an injection of adrenaline, and she again came to her senses, turned to me: “Andrei Vladimirovich, what was that?” “You know, it was clinical death.” She smiled and said: “No, life!”

What is the state into which the brain passes during clinical death? After all, death is death. We fix death when we see that breathing has stopped, the heart has stopped, the brain does not work, it cannot perceive information and, moreover, send it out.

So the brain is only a transmitter, but is there something deeper, stronger in a person? And here we are faced with the concept of the soul. After all, this concept is almost supplanted by the concept of the psyche. The psyche is there, but the soul is not.

How would you like to die?

We asked both the healthy and the sick, "How would you like to die?" And people with certain characterological qualities built a model of death in their own way.

People with a schizoid type of character, such as Don Quixote, characterized their desire rather strangely: "We would like to die so that no one around sees my body."

Epileptoids - they considered it unthinkable for themselves to lie still and wait for death to come, they should have been able to somehow participate in this process.

Cycloids - people like Sancho Panza, would like to die surrounded by relatives. Psychasthenics are anxious and suspicious people, worried about how they will look when they die. The hysteroids wanted to die at sunrise or sunset, on the seashore, in the mountains.

I compared these desires, but I remember the words of one monk who said this: “I don’t care what will surround me, what will be the situation around me. It is important for me that I die during prayer, thanking God that He sent me life, and I saw the power and beauty of His creation.”

Heraclitus of Ephesus said: “A man on his deathly night kindles a light for himself; and he is not dead, putting out his eyes, but alive; but he comes into contact with the dead - dozing, awake - comes into contact with the dormant, ”is a phrase over which you can puzzle almost all your life.

Being in contact with the patient, I could arrange with him that when he died, he would try to let me know if there was something behind the coffin or not. And I got this answer, more than once.

Once I made an agreement with one woman, she died, and I soon forgot about our agreement. And then one day, when I was in the country, I suddenly woke up from the fact that the light came on in the room. I thought I forgot to turn off the light, but then I saw that the same woman was sitting on the bed opposite me. I was delighted, started talking to her, and suddenly I remembered - she died!

I thought that I was dreaming all this, turned away and tried to fall asleep in order to wake up. After a while, I raised my head. The light was on again, I looked around in horror - she was still sitting on the bed and looking at me. I want to say something, I can't - horror. I realized what was in front of me dead man. And suddenly she, smiling sadly, said: "But this is not a dream."

Why do I give such examples? Because the uncertainty of what awaits us makes us return to the old principle: "Do no harm."

That is, “do not rush death” is the most powerful argument against euthanasia. To what extent do we have the right to interfere with the state that the patient is experiencing?

How can we hasten his death when he is perhaps experiencing the most brilliant life at this moment?

Quality of life and permission to die

It is not the number of days that we have lived that matters, but the quality. And what gives the quality of life? The quality of life makes it possible to be without pain, the ability to control one's consciousness, the opportunity to be surrounded by relatives and families.

Why is it important to communicate with relatives? Because children often repeat the story of the life of their parents or relatives. Sometimes in the details, it's amazing. And this repetition of life is often also a repetition of death.

The blessing of relatives is very important, the parental blessing of a dying child to children, it can even save them later, save them from something. Again, returning to the cultural heritage of fairy tales.

Remember the plot: the old father dies, he has three sons. He asks: "After my death, go to my grave for three days." The older brothers either do not want to go or are afraid, only the younger, a fool, goes to the grave, and at the end of the third day, the father reveals some secret to him.

When a person passes away, he sometimes thinks: “Well, let me die, let me get sick, but let my relatives be healthy, let the illness end on me, I will pay the bills for the whole family.” And now, having set a goal, no matter whether rationally or affectively, a person receives a meaningful departure from life.

A hospice is a home that offers a quality life. Not an easy death, but a quality life. This is a place where a person can end his life meaningfully and deeply, accompanied by relatives.

When a person leaves, air does not just come out of him, like from a rubber ball, he needs to make a leap, he needs strength in order to step into the unknown. A person must allow himself this step.

And he receives the first permission from his relatives, then from the medical staff, from volunteers, from the priest and from himself. And this permission to die from oneself is the most difficult.

You know that Christ, before suffering and praying in the Garden of Gethsemane, asked His disciples: "Stay with Me, do not sleep." Three times the disciples promised Him to stay awake, but fell asleep without providing support. So, in a spiritual sense, a hospice is a place where a person can ask: "Stay with me."

And if such a great personality - the Incarnate God - needed the help of a man, if He said: “I no longer call you slaves. I called you friends, ”addressing people, then follow this example and saturate with spiritual content last days the patient is very important.

If you care about life and death,